Sunday, 26 June 2011

Reading body language

Doesn't matter whether she is interested in you, you'll make her interested eventually anyway:) But look for these signs to show you whether you're already making progress:) It's also fun to look for these signs as a by-stander, either in everyday situations or for example in a bar - when the guy earnestly believes he is being sooo smooth but the woman he is talking to isn't displaying any of the signs presented below, you can't help but have a chuckle about it:)

Her lips:

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.
Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.
She wets her lips, some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower lip, while others run the tongue around the entire lip area.
She puts her fingernail between her teeth.
She protrudes her lips and thrust her breasts forward.

Her eyes:

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.
She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a smile and some eye contact.
She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.
While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.
Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.

Her hair:

She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion.
She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.
She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders.

Her clothing:

If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect.
The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.
She is fixing, patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.

While she is seated:

She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.
She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
She is sitting with her legs open.
She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.
Her legs are rubbing against each other.
Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.
Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

Her hands:

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.
While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.
She rubs her wrists up and down.
She sits with one hand touching one of her breasts.
She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way:)
She is fondling keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with toys or other things on the table.
She plays with her jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.
She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you (in case you already haven't started kino yourself, dumbass:).
She is pretending to look at her watch as you pass her.

Her voice:

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.
She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.
She laughs in unison with you.
In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

Micellaneous:

She mirrors your body language and body positions.
Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.
She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.
She leans over and speaks into her friend's ear, just like in junior high school.
She is standing with her head cocked slightly at an angle, one foot behind the other, hips slightly thrust forward.
At a party - every once in a while she seems to appear out of nowhere in your vicinity and if you move to another spot, soon she appears out of nowhere again, you catch her glancing in your general direction (actually, glancing at YOU dummy!:), she bumps into you… accidentally, touches you… accidentally etc:)
When talking to a girl, these are some of the more important signs to watch for:

Can you keep conversation going with her?
Does she react well to kino?
Does she touch you?
Does she laugh?
Now I don't have to explain what the answer "yes" to these questions means, do I:)

From "Sweep women off their feet...": "All these signs usually tell you that the girl is captivated by your charms. But before you get there, chances are that her body language changes as the discussion progresses. Make sure that you watch her closely and as soon as you get a sign that should be an indication that you are on the right track, keep going in that direction. If the opposite happens, just change the subject and see what happens."

The really gorgeous and beautiful girls however very seldom get around to displaying the signs of interest described above. They simply don't have to, as they are used to getting some attention already long before that. With such girls you have to be on a lookout for the initial and thus much more subtle signs of interest. One example of this would be a gorgeous girl simply looking at your face. Obviously people tend to look at what or whom they like to look at. But whereas an average girl first just looks at your face and then progresses into the more overt signs of interest described above, looking at your face from time to time might be the only sign of interest you'll ever get from the most beautiful of girls.

So if you think you're not getting any signs of interest from beautiful girls - you are, but you just can't see them well enough yet.

I'M INTERESTED

  •  Sidelong glance(s)
  •  Looks at you a few times
  •  Holds your gaze briefly
  •  Downcast eyes, then away
  •  Posture changes to alert
  •  Preens, adjusts hair, attire
  •  Turns body toward you
  •  Tilts head
  •  Narrows eyes slightly
  •  Smiles
  •  Matches your posture
  •  Eyes sparkle
  •  Licks her lips
  •  Thrusts breasts
DON'T BOTHER ME

  •  Never sneaks a peek
  •  Fleeting eye contact
  •  Looks away quickly
  •  Looks away, eyes level
  •  Posture unchanged
  •  Does no preening
  •  Turns body away
  •  Head remains vertical
  •  Eyes remain normal
  •  Neutral, polite face
  •  Posture unchanged
  •  Normal or dull eyes
  •  Keeps mouth closed
  •  Sags to de-emphasize breasts
In Summary. Frequency of eye contact, the more the better. Amount of time she, or he, holds your gaze, the longer the better. How she breaks off eye contact, down before away is great! Shine of the eyes, the brighter the better. Direction of body, toward you, good, away, bad. Overall posture, erect and alert are good. Tilt of head, vertical is bad, increased tilt is great. Where the drink is held, high in front as a barrier, that's bad. Hand activity, clenched, squeezing or pinching is bad, open, caressing or stroking is great.

Most of us are slightly afraid as well as somewhat excited in settings where social interaction is expected and required. So, most people do not sit or stand in an open posture. But, during courtship, the more open the other person's posture is, the more open that person is to you and your advances. And, the more open you are, the more likely the other person is to open up to you. First Conversation Signals. Men, pay attention to all the ways she communicates during the first few minutes as you talk with her.

KEEP TALKING

  •  Alert, energetic
  •  Pupils dilated
  •  Gradually opens posture
  •  Lowers drink
  •  Touches self gently
  •  Caresses objects
  •  Crosses and uncrosses legs
  •  Flashes of palm
  •  Crossed legs steady
  •  Dangles shoe on toe
  •  Hands never touch face
  •  Touches you any reason
  •  Feet firmly on floor
  •  Loosens anything
  •  Leans forward
  •  Steady hands, feet
MOVE ON

  •  Tense, restless
  •  Normal or small pupils
  •  Posture remains closed
  •  Keeps drink high
  •  Grips or pinches self
  •  Squeezes, taps objects
  •  Legs remain crossed
  •  Back of hand gestures
  •  Swings crossed legs
  •  Keeps shoe on
  •  Touches face
  •  Never touches you
  •  Feet on edges or toes
  •  Tightens anything
  •  Leans away
  •  Tapping, drumming
In social settings, most of us start out in a closed, defensive posture because we're a bit apprehensive. A closed posture feels safe. When the person you are talking with shifts to a more open posture, it signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally, opening up to you and what you have to offer.

It takes courage to open up to the other person. If you go first, she, or he, will usually follow your move from closed to slightly more open. Open up in, slow, gradual shifts of posture.




Wednesday, 1 June 2011

Good traits to have/develop to be a successful player.

 Women obviously want a man with these most important traits:

  • confidence
  • humour
  • smile
  • well groomed / good looks
  • ability to create an emotional connection / a feeling of romance
In addition to that, being a successful player includes:
  • being patient
  • being persistent
  • being comfortable just going up and talking to a new woman
  • finding opportunities in situations where you before did not believe there would be
  • being sensitive to how she feels/responds and modifying your approach accordingly
  • knowing how to talk to a woman to build more rapport with her
  • knowing how to talk to a woman to make her start thinking in romantic directions
Having mastered all of the above, these will add the final touch:
  • mirror her physically
  • notice her trance words, remember and use them
  • rephrase everything she says and feed it back to her
  • anchor all good feelings
  • don't argue with her, be very understanding, deeply understanding - this can help create an immense rapport
  • use presuppositions to direct her actions
  • have and keep good eye contact - also helps to create an immense rapport
  • touch her
  • and always start with the cutest girl around:)

Friday, 27 May 2011

Be the Alpha/Dominant male.

Often it seems like you know guys who are always getting laid and other guys never get laid. You'll even see women talking to/hanging out/being friends with the average guy, but then sleep with some other guy (even if he is a jerk, sleeps around and doesn't respect them). The guy who gets laid is playing the role of the alpha male, while the other guys are submissive males.

I'm saying be the guy who gets laid. That guy is confident that he's going to get laid, because he knows he's an alpha male. He knows that women and people in general want to be with him so he doesn't shy away from conversation and meeting new people. He doesn't worry what others think about him when he's doing his thing. He takes control of a situation with authority. He knows he's fun to be with because he is always having a good time and therefore he _is_ fun to be with. He knows that if he is in a group of guys and a group of girls, he will be the one the girls choose to be with, and by having this to be the expected outcome, it is a self fufilling profecy.

"Being the alpha male is all about attitude and projecting the image that you are fun to be with and the woman should want to be with you. Being the alpha male is self perpetuating. The more you believe you are the alpha male, the more you become the alpha male."

Wednesday, 25 May 2011

The 3 second rule!

The point of the 3 second rule is to propel you to approach woman fast enough to keep your internal voice from talking you out of it and avoid hesitation. You do not want a woman to see you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more insecure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates an added sense of nervousness to your mental state - a personality trait you do not want to portray when approaching women.

Even if you can't think of any way to initiate a conversation with a woman, whatever you do, don't break the 3 second rule! Act in 3 seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don't have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just say "Hi". If you act in 3 seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from or where you came from or how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you are in a weaker situation. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary bad outcomes and add unneeded insecurity to your approach.

The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her and are free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don't have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious - the clock is always ticking, so move it!

Monday, 23 May 2011

The introduction!

I have started this blog to help "losers" such as the fat ugly guy who don't think much of them selfs and are trying to get that hot, good looking girl who is sitting or dancing 20meters away from you at a pub,club or party you don't need to be ugly you could just be any odd guy but if you follow what im going to tell you, you will be come the ultimate slayer (pick-up-artist).To achieve this goal you will have to follow what i'am going to tell you over time.